I decided to get off social media.
No Instagram or Facebook.
A decision that was building for months and months. Because I am feeling an ever-stronger pull towards a holistic and whole-hearted approach to many, many things in my life. And my relationship with social media was feeling less-than holistic. Or whole-hearted.
Once I decided to get off social media, I sat down and wrote the following letter to my followers:
Hello, gorgeous souls -
After a lot of thought, I have decided to go offline from social media for awhile. Maybe for a long while.
Spending so much time aimlessly scrolling through the various forms of social media was beginning to leave me feeling less than full. Most times, I left feeling heavier. Frustrated. Disconnected.
So I did a little test-drive and detoxed from the two main social media sources I'm connected to - Facebook and Instagram - for a full week and I am telling you, I felt better. Lighter.
And you know what? In that week, I sat down and wrote letters. And actually mailed them. I made phone calls and chatted with dear friends and hung up feeling supported, invigorated, and happy. I spent time feeling creatively fulfilled when cooking in my kitchen and writing for my blog.
So I have decided that I'm only going to spend my time online in places that leave me feeling full and empowered. And I am going to drastically cut the time I spend online as a whole.
Part of me feels panicky because it is a risk. I'm trying to build a business and every advice column around me hails the power of social media. So I faltered. And I stayed on Pinterest and Facebook and Instagram even though it didn't feel good because I was afraid of what I might miss.
Here's what I've come to -
The mysterious and beautiful power of the Universe is stronger than that. The souls I need to connect with will cross my path just as they need to.
And, this: "My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me." - Imam Al-Shafi'i
I don't want to come across as preachy - you absolutely must do what's best for you. This is what's best for me.
Time away. Maybe completely.
I will still be very much available to connect - for a photo session, on my blog (and I choose to remain an online presence there because it fulfills me creatively), and via email, a phone call, or a hand-written letter. So please reach out if you feel a pull to do so.
I'll leave this space up for a bit so as to get the word out, but after that, I'll be deactivating my business pages.
I hope you'll understand.
Sending you lots of love, light, and encouragement -
It's been two weeks since I made that decision and week since I've deactivated my accounts.
And it feels so, so good. Truly. My fear of missing out has been replaced with genuinely connecting and shifting my priorities. I'm doing my Soul Work - things that I've been putting off because I allowed social media to distract me. Deep, spiritual work. Journaling about hard things. Getting clear on what I really desire and how I really want to spend my time. Creating.
I don't see myself ever going back.
I have been pretty blown away by the amount of positive responses I have received because of this decision. Women seeking the same thing for themselves. Women reaching out to truly connect. And it has me thinking - there has to be a better way to approach technology. To use it in a holistic, balanced way to connect and create. It's got my brain buzzing with ideas and thoughts and I'm letting Life guide me as I try to figure out what that might mean. Something I hope to share here. Soon.
And ultimately, I think it boils down to this - it is up to us to choose what we invite into our lives, be it technology/social media/websites, people, our jobs and work. Or food. How you spend your free time. Anything. Does it bring joy? Does it make you feel lighter? Does it make your life better? Happier? If social media inspires you and you have a healthy and balanced attitude towards it, then by all means, continue on. But, I didn't have a healthy relationship with it and my choice to cut it out of my life was a big one. And I know one thing for sure - there are a lot of things I don't have control over in this life and you'd better believe that I want the things I do have control over to impact my life for good.
My friends, I hope you'll choose the things that fill you up, inspire you, and bring you closer to your truth.
Lots of encouragement to you!
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Never Broken by Jewel
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